Marriage And Fornication

God wants us to get married:

How does the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary define marriage? “The act of uniting a man and woman for life; wedlock; the legal union of a man and woman for life. Marriage is a contract both civil and religious, by which the parties engage to live together in mutual affection and fidelity, till death shall separate them. Marriage was instituted by God himself for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education of children.”

God said to the first man and woman:

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

The only thing that God said was not good in creation was man being alone:

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

The Bible teaches us it is an honourable thing for us to marry:

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

The Bible also says that it is a good thing to marry:

Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”

Getting married stops us from fornicating:

1 Corinthians 7:1-2 “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”

Being married is a covenant (Malachi 2:14) between the couple and God, and creates a stable home to raise godly children (Malachi 2:15).

God wants us to be fruitful and multiply:

Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”

Genesis 9:1 And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.”

God wants us to marry and have children and replenish the earth. The Bible teaches it is a blessing to have children:

Genesis 12:2 And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:”

Psalms 127:3-5 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.”

Psalms 128:3-4 Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table. Behold, that thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the LORD.”

How does the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary define bastard? “Begotten and born out of lawful matrimony; illegitimate.”

God doesn’t want us to have illegitimate children, this is another reason why he calls us to find one spouse and stay together until death, this way God has given us a foundation for a secure family home. Fornicating results in having illegitimate children (bastards), which is not God’s will (John 8:41, Hebrews 12:7-8).

Lawful and unlawful marriage:

God gives many commandments on marriage between one man and one woman, with good and bad examples for us to either mirror or reject.

The Lord Jesus Christ taught that God made them MALE and FEMALE and they TWAIN shall be ONE flesh. It is unlawful and an abomination for a man to lie with a man (Leviticus 18:22, Leviticus 20:13) and also the women (Romans 1:26-27) who do so change the natural use into that which is against nature.

The Bible is full of bad and ungodly examples of men having multiple wives, the first record of this is the fifth descendant of Cain who killed a man and took two wives (Genesis 4:19-24).

God commanded for kings not to multiply wives:

Deuteronomy 17:17 Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold.”

King Solomon did this and they turned his heart away from the Lord:

1 Kings 11:4 For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.”

God gave specific commands for a priest who chooses a wife:

Leviticus 21:7 They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God.”


(1 Peter 2:9, Revelation 1:6)

When we get married:

How does the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary define espouse? “To betroth; to promise or engage in marriage, by contract in writing, or by some pledge.”

How does it define endow? “To furnish with a portion of goods or estate, called dower; to settle a dower on, as on a married woman or widow.”

God gives us statutes on how his people are to marry. This includes fundamental ideas that form the basis of the marriage. For example, in scripture there should be a dowry given from the future husband.

A dowry was given to Rebekah and her family by Abraham’s servant:

Genesis 24:53 And the servant brought forth jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and raiment, and gave them to Rebekah: he gave also to her brother and to her mother precious things.”

Jacob served Laban for seven years to marry Rachel:

Genesis 29:18-20 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter. And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me. And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.”

Shechem asked Jacob and his sons to marry Dinah and said it didn’t matter how much they asked of him to marry her, he was willing to pay it:

Genesis 34:11-12 And Shechem said unto her father and unto her brethren, Let me find grace in your eyes, and what ye shall say unto me I will give. Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me: but give me the damsel to wife.”

There is a dowry for a virgin:

Exodus 22:17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.”

Saul asked David to marry one of his daughters and be his son in law, David responded to say he is poor and lightly esteemed, the king said he didn’t want a dowry payment for his daughter of money but one hundred foreskins of the Philistines (1 Samuel 18:25).

God held a high standard especially for the priests, as believers in the New Testament we are priests to God.

God wants us to marry as a virgin, to be pure and chaste for our spouse:

Leviticus 21:13-14 And he shall take a wife in her virginity. A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife.”

A father of a bride should give her away as a virgin to her husband:

Deuteronomy 22:13-19 If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel’s virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: And the damsel’s father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter’s virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him; And they shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days.”

If the bride lies to her father and future husband about being a virgin when she is not the LORD said to stone her and put away evil from among you. God takes marriage and purity very seriously.

We should be a chaste virgin as a bride for the Lord:

2 Corinthians 11:2 For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.”

If a man takes a wife and lies with her and finds she is not a virgin then he can write her a bill of divorcement and put her away because he finds some uncleanness in her:

Deuteronomy 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.”

The Bible compares believers to a bride for the Lord Jesus Christ who is the bridegroom, and the rapture and the marriage supper of the Lamb are represented through a wedding between the bride and the bridegroom:

Revelation 19:7-9 Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.”

Hosea 2:19-20 And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the LORD.”

Adultery and divorce:

How does the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary define adultery? “Adultery means the unfaithfulness of any married person to the marriage bed.”

Adultery is viewed equivalently to shedding blood, and God sees marriage as permanent. That is why he calls it wedlock, therefore when he joins a man and a woman together, no one should separate it:

Ezekiel 16:38 And I will judge thee, as women that break wedlock and shed blood are judged; and I will give thee blood in fury and jealousy.”

Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

How does the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary define divorce? “A legal dissolution of the bonds of matrimony, or the separation of husband and wife by a judicial sentence.”

God loves marriage (Hebrews 13:4) and condemns divorce (Malachi 2:16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away…”):

Matthew 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.”

When a couple divorce, it destroys the sanctity of the marriage covenant, as well as the picture of our loyalty to Jesus as the bride of Christ.

Jesus says that you can only put away your wife if there has been fornication, which are sexual relations before the marriage according to Deuteronomy 24:1:

Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”

Adultery is not the same as fornication. Fornication is being unmarried and sleeping with someone, adultery is being married and sleeping with someone who is not your husband/wife. 1 Corinthians 6:9 lists adultery and fornication as distinct, separate sins. This is why they have different punishments.

Fornicators must marry or pay the dowry of virgins:

Exodus 22:16-17 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.”

Adulterers must be put to death:

Leviticus 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.”

Sex alone does not equal marriage:

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

God is giving a clear order here, if a man is to cleave unto his wife, this must mean that they are already husband and wife before the cleaving happens. They shall be one flesh, but she is already his wife at this point because God declared them married. So they marry and THEN a man takes his wife and cleaves unto her, thus consummating the marriage.

Isaac takes Rebekah into his mother’s tent to marry her, not to lay with her. The same verb take/took is used in Matthew 1:20 and 24 for Mary and Joseph, and yet Mary was still a virgin afterwards. She became his wife through their marriage, not through any physical intimacy. Even before this occurs, they give gifts and dowries, make agreements with Rebekah’s father and so on, for the formal commitment:

Genesis 24:67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.”

The couple make a public declaration of their love with a formal agreement, and then in the evening the couple consummate their marriage:

Genesis 29:22-23 And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast. And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her.”

Genesis 34:2-4 And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel. And Shechem spake unto his father Hamor, saying, Get me this damsel to wife.”

Shechem and Dinah laid together, which is consensual, not forced (“he loved the damsel… he lay with her”), and yet the act defiled her. This is because they fornicated outside of marriage and she is no longer pure and a virgin. However, the sexual act did not cause them to become married, this was what he wanted after (“Get me this damsel to wife”). So even though two people made a mutual decision to lie together, they are still not married in God’s eyes, and fornicating outside of marriage makes you defiled. In order for them to be married, a dowry and parental permission were needed (Genesis 34:11-12) In bypassing this and going straight to laying with her without the marriage first, they were fornicating (Genesis 34:31 And they said, Should he deal with our sister as with an harlot?”)

Genesis 38:14-16 And she put her widow’s garments off from her, and covered her with a vail, and wrapped herself, and sat in an open place, which is by the way to Timnath; for she saw that Shelah was grown, and she was not given unto him to wife. When Judah saw her, he thought her to be an harlot; because she had covered her face. And he turned unto her by the way, and said, Go to, I pray thee, let me come in unto thee; (for he knew not that she was his daughter in law.) And she said, What wilt thou give me, that thou mayest come in unto me?”

Genesis 38:24-26 And it came to pass about three months after, that it was told Judah, saying, Tamar thy daughter in law hath played the harlot; and also, behold, she is with child by whoredom. And Judah said, Bring her forth, and let her be burnt. When she was brought forth, she sent to her father in law, saying, By the man, whose these are, am I with child: and she said, Discern, I pray thee, whose are these, the signet, and bracelets, and staff. And Judah acknowledged them, and said, She hath been more righteous than I; because that I gave her not to Shelah my son. And he knew her again no more.”

Neither Judah nor Tamar are committing adultery as both of their spouses have died. And yet when she gets pregnant out of wedlock, she has played the harlot and is with child by whoredom, because now she is known to be a fornicator due to being pregnant but unmarried. Yet she has slept with Judah knowingly and he knew her again no more, because they have not become husband and wife, but fornicators, because they were never married.

Fornicating is not what constitutes a marriage, because the man still must endow the woman to be his wife afterwards. So she is not his wife until they marry, even though they have laid together:

Exodus 22:16-17 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.”

It does not make sense for marriage to purely be a result of physical intimacy. If divorce in the Bible is a formal process, requiring a legal document (“write her a bill of divorcement”), why would this not be the same for marriage?

Deuteronomy 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.”

Why would you not begin a marriage with the same standard as you end it? If marriage begins the first time a couple lies together, at what point do they make this public? At what point do they announce their marriage? What is an engagement/betrothal etc., a plan to sleep together? If sleeping together makes you married, what is the difference between adultery and polygamy?

In the book of Judges, the woman is called Samson’s wife and he is called her husband, with no mention of any physical intimacy, only of a seven day feast:

Judges 14:15 And it came to pass on the seventh day, that they said unto Samson’s wife, Entice thy husband, that he may declare unto us the riddle, lest we burn thee and thy father’s house with fire: have ye called us to take that we have? is it not so?”

There is a Biblical order to things – marry and then consummate it:

Ruth 4:13 So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife: and when he went in unto her, the LORD gave her conception, and she bare a son.”

The permission of the father especially, and the family, was important in establishing a marriage, not just flesh meeting flesh. Those who fornicated were seen as fools, and the solution to this was to marry first, a requirement for Tamar being her father’s permission (“speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee”):

2 Samuel 13:12-13 And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly. And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee.”

Mary and Joseph are married, he is her husband and she is his wife, and yet they have not yet consummated their marriage and she is still a virgin. When Joseph finds out she is pregnant he thinks he has to put her away privily (divorce her, Matthew 5:31-32) until the angel of the Lord explains. How can a marriage be purely the result of a couple coming together physically, if Mary and Joseph had not done this and yet they were married? Why would he need to divorce her if they were not yet married?

God calls Joseph her husband and Mary his wife twice. They were espoused to each other, not engaged or endowed but HUSBAND and WIFE.

Matthew 1:18-20 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily. But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.”

Matthew 1:24 Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:”

The Bible advocates, urges and encourages marriage; Jesus chose the wedding at Cana for the setting of his first miracle. God never rebuked weddings, but Jesus himself actually attended one!

Fornication as an individual believer:

How does the 1828 Webster’s Dictionary define fornication? “The incontinence or lewdness of unmarried persons, male or female”.

How does the it define whore? “A harlot; a courtesan; a concubine; a prostitute. To have unlawful sexual commerce; to practice lewdness.”

No Christian lady would want the Lord to label her a whore.

In the Old Testament, if the daughter of a priest was fornicating (playing the whore), she is to be executed. God holds the priesthood to a higher standard, and commanded them to “be ye holy; for I am holy” (1 Peter 1:16), just as we are a royal priesthood in the New Testament (1 Peter 2:9):

Leviticus 21:9 And the daughter of any priest, if she profane herself by playing the whore, she profaneth her father: she shall be burnt with fire.”

The disciples wrote to other believers to stay away from certain things, such as fornication:

Acts 15:20 But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood.”

Acts 15:24 That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.”

Acts 21:25 As touching the Gentiles which believe, we have written and concluded that they observe no such thing, save only that they keep themselves from things offered to idols, and from blood, and from strangled, and from fornication.”

Fornication should never be commonly reported amongst God’s people:

1 Corinthians 5:1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife.”

Fornication and lasciviousness need to be repented of:

2 Corinthians 12:21 “And lest, when I come again, my God will humble me among you, and that I shall bewail many which have sinned already, and have not repented of the uncleanness and fornication and lasciviousness which they have committed.”

Fornication is a work of the flesh and if done such shall not inherit the Kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9).

What God wants is for us to abstain from fornication, we should know how to possess our vessel (our body), for we are not our own, we are bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:20).

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:”

We are told not only to abstain from fornication, but to flee from it:

2 Timothy 2:22 “Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

This is the only act that God speaks of in the Bible which is a sin against your own body!

1 Peter 2:11-12 “Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul; Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation.”

We should not live together before we are married, not only to avoid temptation but to not appear to others we are fornicating:

1 Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.”

Fornication in the church:

As a church (group of believers), we are called to be separate and different from the world. We should strive to live holy and in righteousness before God and shouldn’t let fornication be named among us:

Ephesians 5:3-4 “But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.”

We should not keep company or eat with a brother (a believer) that is a fornicator, but should put them away from among us:

1 Corinthians 5:9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:”

1 Corinthians 5:11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.”

1 Corinthians 5:13 But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.”

Deuteronomy 22:21  …so shalt thou put evil away from among you.”

God wants us to purge out that sin from among us because it spreads and leavens the whole lump. If there are some fornicating in the church, it spreads and becomes normal among other believers:

1 Corinthians 5:6-7 Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump? Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:”

God’s wrath/warning on fornication:

Our bodies are the temple of God, if we fornicate, we defile ourselves. God warns us that if we do this, he will destroy that temple (Leviticus 18:20, Genesis 34:2):

1 Corinthians 3:17 If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.”

1 Corinthians 5:5 To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.”

Our bodies are not for fornication!

1 Corinthians 6:13 Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.”

In the Old Testament, when the children of Israel left Egypt and walked in the wilderness, there was fornication among them, so God killed 23,000 of them in one day. This is an example unto us, the Bible even tells us that they were a church in the wilderness (Acts 7:38). All that they did is an example for us today:

1 Corinthians 10:8 Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.”

1 Corinthians 10:11 Now all these things happened unto them for examples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come.”

Having sin and fornication in the church means that God will not be with us. As believers we are always at battle, and need the Lord’s help (Ephesians 6:10-11). We need to take the sin away from among us and sanctify ourselves, or we will not be able to stand before our enemies:

Joshua 7:11-13 Israel hath sinned, and they have also transgressed my covenant which I commanded them: for they have even taken of the accursed thing, and have also stolen, and dissembled also, and they have put it even among their own stuff. Therefore the children of Israel could not stand before their enemies, but turned their backs before their enemies, because they were accursed: neither will I be with you any more, except ye destroy the accursed from among you. Up, sanctify the people, and say, Sanctify yourselves against to morrow: for thus saith the LORD God of Israel, There is an accursed thing in the midst of thee, O Israel: thou canst not stand before thine enemies, until ye take away the accursed thing from among you.”

Our members refer to our body parts, which we should subjugate and discipline. Fornication is a sin that brings the wrath of God upon an individual and a congregation:

Colossians 3:5-6 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things’ sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:”

Christ addresses the church at Pergamos, and tells them he had a few things against them, one of them was committing fornication. The Lord told them to repent, to get rid of their sin quickly, or else he will fight against them with the sword of his mouth:

Revelation 2:14-16 But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornication. So hast thou also them that hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitanes, which thing I hate. Repent; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will fight against them with the sword of my mouth.”

Christ addresses the church at Thyatira, and tells them he had a few things against them as well, one of which was again fornication. The Lord does give us time and grace to repent of our sin but if we do not, whoever teaches and does this, the Lord will bring great tribulation (trouble, affliction) upon us and even possibly kill individuals. The Lord does this for examples to show other churches that they will not get away with this.

Revelation 2:20-23 Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols. And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not. Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds. And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.”


In conclusion, as believers, we ought to obey God’s commandments and one of them is not to fornicate, which is sleeping with someone you are not married to, whether this is a committed relationship or not. We should save ourselves for our future spouse, which God honours and respects. God’s will is for us to marry to create a good environment to raise children and this marriage requires a formal lifelong commitment between a couple and God, not just a physical union. Marriage is honourable in all, and a very significant theme running throughout the entire Bible is the church’s espousal to Christ, concluding with the marriage supper of the Lamb. God blesses and encourages marriage between believers. If we have fornicated before or after the Lord saving us, he is faithful and just and will forgive us if we repent and do not continue.

As Christians, we ought not to live unclean lives but be holy and sanctified. This way we keep our bodies clean by not defiling the temple God has given us. We should present our bodies a living sacrifice unto God, which is our reasonable service, for he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption. Whatever we do with our bodies should glorify God. This benefits God by us keeping ourselves holy, benefits our future spouse by knowing we have only chosen to be with them and benefits our body and others, this way nobody is used or forsaken.

We should not only consider our own relationship with God and our desire to please him, but also our witness to both other believers and the world. As a church, we need to stay pure so that we do not become desensitised or softened to sin, we need to come down hard on it and keep the Lord pleased with us. We want God for us, not against us as individuals and as a congregation. Everything always works out best for us when we follow the Lord’s guidance and we can see the mistakes the world makes and shouldn’t follow their example. This has not been written to criticise but to correct as many Christians today live just like the world, when we are commanded to be separate and different. We are not told to be like the world or even to save the world but to save those from it.

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